Those of you who have read my blog before will have seen that earlier this year I had my first go at Speed Dating, if not you can take a read here.
Recently I was invited by the team at Date In A Dash* to give one of their speed dating nights a go and I thought why not. Last time I discovered that while I am a shy person if i’m put in one-on-one situation where I have to talk to someone I can do it. I think it’s group situations that I don’t do so well at, and the whole approaching someone (romantic interest or not) is still daunting.
Me and a friend chose a night in St Pauls and the event took place at a lovely bar called Core which i’d recommend going to just for the amazing Tom Collins cocktail. The night ran fairly similarly to my previous experience (and like most others i’d expect) in that after mingling a bit the ladies sat down and were joined by a guy. When a whistle sounded the men moved on along the numbers to the next lady and you had to mark on your card if you were interested yes, no or as a friend. Pretty standard stuff.
Last time I was a little disheartened by the males in the group, most either couldn’t speak English properly or were almost certainly over the 35 year upper age limit. This time I was pleasantly surprised though. Don’t get me wrong I didn’t meet Prince Charming or anyone I could see myself having a relationship with but the men communicated well (apart from one who I had no idea what the hell he was saying, cue constantly nodding and hoping 4 minutes hurries up). But the guys were not all hitting 35 and were a lot easier to talk to than I had previously experienced.
It might have been the location being surrounded by the financial district but the guys at the event seemed more genuine than i’d experienced before. Out of 16 guys I think I put one yes, about five no’s and ten friends (Maybe i’m too nice a person!). If both parties put either friend or yes you’ll get a match and last time I got matches with everyone, but this time I got about six so some of the guys weren’t just putting yes to every girl in the hope for a match they were being selective.
While having to speak to sixteen random strangers is still a nerve wracking experience I still had a fun evening.