A Response To ‘That’ Plus Size Article

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Earlier today I read an article published on The Richest entitled ’15 Thoughts Every Guy Has When Dating A Bigger Woman’ and of course I clicked on it to have a read thinking it would be whimsical or interesting. In fact what resulted was more anger than I’ve felt in a long time. If you haven’t read the article you can read it here, but be prepared to feel really disgraced by the end both with the publication for publishing it but also with the author. The title itself is so generalizing as I am sure not ‘every guy’ thinks these things when dating a bigger woman, for the sake of everyone I hope they don’t! The original article is full of so many shitty sterotypes about larger girls and almost justifying why anyone would want to be with someone whose larger which is total bullshit. I am going to address all of the so called thoughts that guys have:

15. Your Date Is Tough- The article talks about guys wanting to nurture and take care of a girl but when you’re with a ‘plus sized’ girl she is tough and doesn’t need protecting which is complete bullshit. Regardless of your size anyone can be tough and independant and in the same breath everyone needs protecting once in a while, just because you have a few extra layers doesn’t mean you are manly or tough.

14. My Girl Can Cook- The article talks about the fact that most larger girls are that size because they like food and therefore can cook. Firstly yes larger people tend to be that way because they like eating, but for others it isn’t just because they can’t stop stuffing cake in their mouths. And being able to cook has nothing to do with size, just because you’re with us doesn’t mean we’re going to cook you homemade dinners everyday get off your arses and help us!

13. Calorie Counting Is Out- The article talks about the fact that if you’re larger then you don’t care about what you eat which is complete rubbish. Just because a girl might be larger doesn’t mean she is unhealthy and only wants to eat pizza every second of the day, we can eat fruit and salad as much as anyone else.

12. It Is Good For His Confidence- This one angers me so much as the article talks about ‘lot of times guys are not ready for the major leagues’ so to hit on larger girls who are more likely to say yes. Just because we’re larger doesn’t mean our standards are lower and we won’t just jump into bed with any guy who is willing to have us. And who cares about your confidence?! Everyone likes different types of people and a larger girl is just as desirable as anyone else.

11. He Might Like Them Better- The article states ‘so many people look at a guy with a plus-sized woman and feel kind of bad for him’ which in itself is an awful thought. Larger girls are just as beautiful as smaller girls and while everyone has a type, the way someone looks shouldn’t dictate anything. Yes physical attraction is important but larger girls are people too, we all have individual personalities and have qwerks and traits which make us all unique, interesting and great people that anyone would be lucky to be with.

10. They Are Easy To Talk To- How the bloody hell does the size of someone change how easy they are to talk to?! When you lose weight do you become instantly unapproachable or something?! I don’t know what to be more angry about the fact that smaller more ‘traditionally hot’ girls are percieved by this writer to have ‘never really learned the art of conversation’ or for the plus sized girls who are apparently used to ‘working their personality to make up for what many guys perceive to be flaws’. I have some friends who are deemed traditionally pretty and some who like me are larger and we’re all as approachable as one another and have mastered the art of conversation, clearly more so than the author of this article.

9. Picking A Place To Eat Is Easy- Just because we might be larger doesn’t mean we are ‘going to probably be willing to go pretty much anywhere’. One day we might fancy a large greasy burger but other times we might fancy going to do the Veggie restaurant that opened. Being larger doesn’t mean we’re suddenly going to give in to whatever you want.

8. The Cuddling Is The Best- While most of what this point says isn’t too degrading cuddles are just as enjoyable with anyone. Although the article does state ‘A plus-sized girl is going to tend to be happy for that sort of attention’, just f**k off right. Just because we’re larger doesn’t mean that we’re lacking in attention, or lacking in people wanting us so we’re just happy to accept cuddles from any man who is willing.

7. She Is A Built- In Workout Buddy- The article basically states that a smaller girl is likely to show you up when working out or be constantly out at the gym but a larger girl is going to be willing to try out your routine and make you look good. Just because a girl is larger doesn’t mean she is unhealthy and it doesn’t mean she doesn’t work out, plenty of larger girls work out, go on runs and lift weights. This is a terrible generalization and one I face all the time. Yes I might be larger but don’t look shocked when I say I work out and complete obstacle runs.

6. There Is Less Pressure On How You Look- This is complete and utter bollocks, some of the most fashionable and beautiful woman out there are deemed as ‘plus sized’. Once a girl hits a certain size or weight doesn’t mean she stops making an effort and doesn’t care what she looks like. We’re all individual and regardless of a girls size everyone wants to look their best.

5. Jealously Is A Thing Of The Past- Just because a girl is plus sized doesn’t mean that no one out there is going to eye her up or check her out. Jealously is natural and it’s all about trust in a relationship whether you’re a beautiful size 6, or a beautiful size 20.

4. They Tend To Be Funny- Much like the ‘easy to talk to point’ there isn’t a size/ weight limit which means that a girl suddenly becomes funny. This is an inherant part of peoples personalities, some girls are funny, some aren’t so funny, this has absolutely zero to do with size!

3. They Tend To Be Eager To Please- There is so much wrong with this statement! The article says larger girls ‘are often not used to being with a guy and are insecure about it’, who says we’re not used to being with a guy?! Our sex lives are just as fulfilling as smaller girls, and we’re just as likely to get a boyfriend as anyone else. This point also calls out that guys look past the ‘physical issues’, being large isn’t a f**king ‘issue’.

2. You Can Take Her Anywhere- As larger girls we have lives too and we’re not going to drop everything for a guy. You want to go somewhere and we’re free yeah cool we’ll go if we want to but we’re not going to follow you around like a lost puppy just because you’ve given us a chance to go out in public.

1. They Are Easy To Ask Out- The article basically says that other than the seemingly few guys who might actually be into plus sized girls the only reason we’re asked out is because we’re less likely to reject you. If you’re a nice person, we get on and find you interesting we’ll agree to go on a date regardless of your size, but if you’re a complete dickhead like the writer of this article we’ll still say no.

If you’ve managed to read this all then kudos to you!

What is your response to the article?
June 27, 2016
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  • Wow yes, what an ignorant article (theirs, not yours!). I hate generalisations like that.

  • Linda Hobbis

    Written as clickbait – I can see no other reason why on earth anyone would publish such a pile of poo. I couldn’t believe what I was reading.

  • This angers me so much! No one should talk about anyone like this! This is gross!

    angry- Candice

  • Oh wow! That is so wrong!! and disgusting too!! Things like this really wind me up

  • I read the article too and it angered me how someone could be so pig headed. What kind of guy would write things like that?!

  • Melanie Edjourian

    it’s shocking really the rubbish that some people write although remember some do it to get a reaction from others.

  • Ugh that is so awful and degrading for women in general – not just larger ladies. I’m tempted to think it was written just to provoke attention. Surely no-one believes that larger people are ‘more grateful’?

  • I read the original article yesterday when you shared it – I still can’t get over someone would actually think that! x

  • Laura

    I haven’t read the original article purely because I was sure it would be a load of BS. xxxx

  • I would have been steaming mad after reading that too. Actually I’m mad now! That was so off base and generalized. Horrible.

  • I would have been fuming too after reading that article! Good on your for writing a counter post.

  • Beautyqueenuk

    I also read the original article and imagine the furor if it had been written about the opposite! x

  • Natasha Mairs

    your link to the article is just going to their home page so can’t find it. But how dare the author write such rubbish. It doesn’t matter if your fat or thin. every single women has their own personality and a guy shouldn’t think a certain way just because he is with someone larger than ‘normal’. This author of the article is a d***

    • It looks like they’ve taken it down now! Even when you Google it it goes to the homepage. At least they’ve realized they’ve done wrong x

  • i absolutely hate articles like that. its so degrading and full of BS. i love your responses to each of them.

  • This is so wrong and rude. How can anyone write this?

  • I totally hate pieces like this… now think about teens who read it and they think it is all true… so much BS… really who writes this c***

  • Hannah Heartss ❄️⛄️

    I hate things like this – how do people think its okay?!

  • GlamourGlitterGloss

    Plus size, you don’t see smaller sizes being dubbed minus size. I am classed as plus size and I’d be a right disappointment if they went off the back of the article, I can barely cook, I’m really fussy with food and whilst I’m tough, I’m also an emotional mess ha. I don’t know why people think to post such ridiculous articles

  • *Beth Twinderelmo*

    Wow how offensive! Who ever thinks it’s ok to write such crap?

  • Anneka Browne

    This is actually horrendous. Obviously I disagree with these ridiculous statements but mostly I struggle to understand how the segregation is made by the size of our bodies. I am so over this crap.

  • Harriet @ Toby&Roo

    WHAT??????? WHATT!!!??? I’m sorry, I don’t think I can reply to this without wanting to scream at my screen. WHAT!??!?!?!

    Oh of course, “fatties” are happy, eat shit loads and are so depressed and down on themselves that you don’t have to worry about them leaving you. They may as well have written it like that because using the term “larger” is moot in that article. How dare this author?! How dare they!!

    Larger people are not always large because they eat, they aren’t always nice they can be horrible too and guess what, they are perfectly capable of loving themselves.

    I’m a size 10-12 and I’m neither mean nor obsessed with what I eat. I don’t think my husband needs to go out an buy a chastity belt for me because I’m good looking, though I am happy to say I think I’m good looking without being conceited or a total douchebag.

    EVERY size, EVERY woman is individual. This is the most appalling way to generalise, degrade and “box” women. Specifically larger women in this instance but I’ll away the “15 things men think when dating a blond” article so I know what’s expected if I dye my hair.

    Sorry Rhian, this has me raging!!!!!

    • This was exactly how I felt after reading the original article the other day!

  • That’s sad how there are people that actually think that way, but then that doesn’t surprise me either. Nothing surprises me anymore. At the end of the day I have to be happy with who I am and how I look, people will always say negative things that obviously are not true but they need to say it to feel good about themselves. We need to know that they aren’t true in our mind and in our hearts. We as women need to stand up for each other and be positive and supportive always.

  • Omg some of these points that have been made are outrageous… It’s sad that people think that of larger people. These are things people think are true but are just silly over generalisations and complete ignorance.


  • Ergh one of my FB friends shared this as a positive post on her Facebook feed and I was just thoroughly disgusted with it! Agree with all of your points :/

  • Kira L Curtis

    I find it horrible when people write posts like that assuming things and then the majority (if not all) of those assumptions are wrong. Whether or not someone is plus-sized or not, no one is tough, everyone has their moments where things get to them and something like this would definitely get to me! So glad you wrote a thorough post about this giving your views!

  • Jessica

    It’s too sad that there are still people think that way. Hello???? those are just numbers and physical appearances. Pity those people who think that way as they will never know what love and respect are. Your article is anyway great with direct and real points. :)

  • globetrotterjen

    I can’t believe people still write like this!disgusting but an excellent comeback.

  • Rachel In Real Life

    Ugh so annoying that there are people that make such assumptions! What a well thought out response though. x

  • I’ve not read the article or really heard anything about it, I must live in a bubble! I’m kind of glad I missed it though as it would have really pissed me off. I don’t know who comes up with these things, they should be ashamed of themselves. If a girl’s size is the most important thing to a guy then he’s a knobhead…

    Jess xo | The Indigo Hours