Fellow bloggers will know what I mean when I say that every once in a while you feel the need to write an emotional article, something from the heart as opposed to talking about beauty products and countries I’ve visited (which is pretty much my whole blog). I’m not an overly emotional person, I’ve never cried during a movie or book and I struggle to cry during situations where it’s socially acceptable to, but I do get emotional for stupid reasons. As I’m sat here I wonder why I’m even sad, a long-term boyfriend hasn’t dumped me and I haven’t been cheated on by a partner so really I have no right to feel like this when so many others are going through shit.
But since when has dating become so hard?! I know app’s and social media make it easier to talk to anyone and everyone in the world but since when have people forgotten about caring about others emotions. I’ve not had any horrific dates like some I’ve read so I can’t really complain but let’s flash back a month or so to a date I went on with a guy I’d met on a dating app. We had loads to talk about beforehand, so much in common and while the date wasn’t the best ever I’d consider it a success. We still got on well, hours passed without us realizing as we wondered the streets of the local town holding hands and it ended in a kiss (or two…..) Flash back to the next day when he says he doesn’t want to see me again because he wasn’t attracted to me. Why kiss me then?! Fortunately, against all odds we’ve actually kept in touch but it just goes to show how rubbish I am at reading signals.
Flashback further to two particular dates I can think of off the top of my head, again guys I’d met on dating apps who I went for drinks with. Both went really well with no stops in the conversation and there was definite chemistry with at least one of them. After saying goodbye and making our way home I left communication that night but then the next day came along and still nothing. Now I’m not a the kind of girl who thinks the guy has to make every move so on both occasions I messaged saying I’d had a nice time, it was nice meeting them, if they’re up for it again just let me know, all the usual kinda stuff but I received nothing back. Zero. Zilch. Not even a “Nice to meet you too” then silence. To me that’s just plain rude.
What’s got me upset this time though feels different which is even more annoying. To cut a long story short I’d been friends with a guy for a while and recently we’d been talking non-stop progressing from normal messaging to flirty messages where we both admitted we’d felt a connection between us etc etc. We met up a few weeks ago and things went great, we had a lovely meetup (I’m not going to call it a date per say) and it ended up with us back at mine. We spoke straight after admitting that we both thought there was lots of chemistry, it was great blah blah blah. But in traditional fashion when you jump into bed with someone too early things seemed a bit odd the next day but he assured me that it was just him feeling shitty and nothing to do with me and that he definitely wanted to meet up again. Gullible me believed him.
Fast forward a few days and we’ve gone from talking all the damn time and flirting quite a lot to slightly stilted conversations which just don’t feel the same. After suggesting another meet up he seems less than keen and the fate of our potential disappears before it even began. While I have no real reason to feel upset it’s really got to me how much things can change in the course of a few days.