It’s really rare for me to do posts like this on my blog but after a conversation I had with someone the other day I just felt like I had to write about it. Fellow bloggers will know the feeling when a post is just itching to come out.
It all stems from a conversation I had a week or so ago with a random women I didn’t really know that well. We were chatting about ourselves etc and she asked me how old I was, looking shocked when I said I was 26 (clearly my youthful looks haha). She asked quickly whether I was married, or had children and I replied saying No, I was a single girl living life to the fullest. When I said this it almost seemed like I had said something shocking and she quickly told me that I better get thinking as there’s only so many years a woman can have children for. By this point I was getting a little miffed, and when I told her that I didn’t think I wanted children she looked like I had taken a knife out and stabbed her in the heart and told me that this was a silly idea and it was a women’s duty to have children.
By this point, fortunately, my phone rang and I was able to run away from this vile women. But it got me thinking. Yes for some women the thought of having children is what they want most in the world, and I admire these women. People who want to bring a little human into the world, care for it for their whole lives and shower it with unconditional love. And yes people need to procreate in order to continue the human race, but not everyone wants the same things. I am happy to hold my hands up and say I am not maternal in the slightest, yes some babies are cute, and I do coo at the tiny little baby clothes as I walk through shops but that’s as far as it goes.
While I’d love to eventually meet someone who I am willing to spend the rest of my life with, and even get married, I don’t think my life would be any less full or fulfilled if I don’t have children. Firstly I am way too selfish, I want to spend my money on myself as opposed to spending money on nappies and baby food. I want to travel the world, experience new cultures and explore places which really wouldn’t be practical with a child. I love my sleep and me time way too much to have it interrupted. And I want a nice, sophisticated home which isn’t full of baby clutter and mess (although I admire the mothers who can keep a tidy home and have a child. How the hell do you do it?!)
In a world where women are told they can do what they want and be what they want, I think it’s perfectly okay to be able to not want what you want as well. Shouldn’t it be just as acceptable for a woman not to want a child as it is for those who do want them!?