Why Solo Dates Are So Important

Why Solo Dates Are So Important

Whether you’re in a relationship or not I think solo dates are incredibly important for your mental wellbeing. We’ve all had times when we’ve gone on a day out and maybe not quite been able to fit in everything we want to do because you’ve had to factor in things the person you’re out with wants to do or had to go slower as they’re not as quick a walker. Or maybe you’ve seen a shop you really want to go into but thought how much your other half would hate it so haven’t entered. Solo dates are pretty much what they say on the tin and times when you can take yourself out and do exactly what you want to do.

I try to have solo dates and days out with myself every 4-6 weeks and I fill the days with exactly what I want to do. Back in September I went to Camden to the stalls I wanted to visit and had some mac and cheese, then did some Oxford Street shopping, went for dinner where I wanted to, went to a new Harry Potter exhibition and finished it off with a trip to the theatre to see Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. Last month I explored some exhibitions at the V&A, had some pizza, a few bakery trips and of course some more shopping (Kat Von D had opened in Debenhams) finishing off at a gig.

I have a long list of bakeries and cafes to try out, exhibitions to go to, shows to see and restaurants to eat in and sometimes it can be hard to find people to always go with, or trying to factor in so many people’s schedules so solo dates allow me to go to the places I want to while having some me time. While you can have relaxing days in with movies, food, bath’s and beauty treatments I do think going out allows you to do more of what you love and things you wouldn’t normally do. Plus it means you don’t get distracted by emails and Facebook constantly as you’re out and about.

Do you take yourself on solo dates?


  1. November 8, 2016 / 4:51 pm

    What a fantastic idea! I need this in my life! I went on a solo holiday in July and it was the best holiday ever, so I can see how regular solo dates could be a good thing. 🙂

  2. Lyndsey O'Halloran
    November 8, 2016 / 10:09 pm

    We have an understanding that I need a mental health day away from my husband and daughter every now and again!

  3. GlamourGlitterGloss
    November 8, 2016 / 11:04 pm

    I love a day to myself but you are on another level. I need to start taking a leaf out of your book when it comes to solo dates, I usually just take the time to be lazy and do nothing. Your days sound much more fun

    • November 10, 2016 / 10:17 am

      There’s just so much in the world to explore and do that I feel the need to cram as much as I can it haha x

  4. Talya Stone
    November 9, 2016 / 8:40 am

    I totally agree – a had a solo date with myself over the weekend and felt like a new person afterwards. Here’s to more!

  5. November 9, 2016 / 10:26 am

    I love just having and hour on my own in the supermarket a whole day would be bliss I think I need to do something soon just for me

  6. November 9, 2016 / 11:45 am

    This sounds like a great idea. Showing my daddy so he can let my mummy off for a day to do something she wants to do on her own. 🙂 There’s so many places she wants to go x

  7. LaaLaa
    November 9, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    I’ve loved the idea of ‘dating myself’ as I call it. Being able to enjoy your own company and go and do what you please without worrying about others rushing you etc. Is a great way to be independent. I definitely need to do that xo

    • November 10, 2016 / 10:16 am

      Exactly if you can’t enjoy your own company why should anyone else? x

  8. Joanna McCaffrey
    November 9, 2016 / 1:36 pm

    I wish I could do a solo date… With a baby and a pre-schooler it’s something I will have to wait for a while…
    You plan your dates very well. I think it would take me 2 or 3 dates to take in as much as you do in one!

  9. November 9, 2016 / 1:53 pm

    I spend a lot of time in my own company during the week but have never thought of solo dates! I like the sound of getting away from the distractions of social media too.

  10. November 9, 2016 / 7:00 pm

    I have never taken myself on a solo date but after readig your post it is something that I am determind to do!

  11. Kathryn
    November 9, 2016 / 7:29 pm

    I love going out for days by myself and you’re right it’s important for your mental health xx

  12. Teresa Bowen
    November 9, 2016 / 7:42 pm

    I very much agree with you. I often go to art exhibitions by myself as then I get to decide everything about the day.

  13. Mummytimestwo
    November 9, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    Solo dates are important for the soul I totally agree, perhaps even more important when you become a parent as alone time is so rare x

  14. Rachel George
    November 9, 2016 / 8:26 pm

    I don’t do it as often as I would like to but I do think it is really important to spend some time just being me. As a wife, mum and carer I have demands on me all the time and, without a few hours to myself, I might just forget who I am.

    • November 10, 2016 / 10:15 am

      It must be so tough to even sit down with a cuppa but as a mum I think it’s so important x

  15. Ickle Pickle
    November 9, 2016 / 9:20 pm

    I have never been on a solo date – it sounds wonderful and something I have never thought of. I like company I guess!! I would like to try it though. Kaz x

  16. November 9, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    I have to admit I used to love going off places by myself, I can’t really do it these days though which is a shame.

  17. Jodie Whitham
    November 9, 2016 / 10:57 pm

    I love this post! It is one of my favourites written by you 🙂 I strongly believe in the importance of enjoying your own company. I have discovered some things I hate doing alone, but think time alone is important for your self and wellbeing; boosts your confidence. It means you’re not as reliant and clingy on others too! x

    • November 10, 2016 / 10:15 am

      Thanks! 🙂 I totally agree, sometimes you need to be alone and realise that you don’t rely too much on other people x

  18. November 10, 2016 / 8:32 am

    I do when I have the time. It helps me relax and treat myself.

  19. Alana
    November 10, 2016 / 9:29 am

    I wish I could, but with a toddler and a baby getting a day with just my husband is an achievement, let alone on my own!

  20. Hungry_Healthy_Happy
    November 10, 2016 / 9:37 am

    I think it’s so important too. I believe that if we can’t spend time by ourselves, then we can’t expect other people to want to either. Even if it is just half an hour, it’s important and achievable for many.

  21. November 10, 2016 / 9:37 am

    Getting some ‘me’ time is so important and something that I try and so at least once a month.

  22. Melanie Edjourian
    November 10, 2016 / 11:58 am

    I must admit I really could with some me time at the moment i’m feeling a bit overwhelmed.

  23. Beautyqueenuk
    November 10, 2016 / 3:47 pm

    I love me time, though I never thought of it as a solo date and it so is x

  24. November 10, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    Totally agree with getting ‘me’ time. I do this every now and again

  25. November 11, 2016 / 12:00 am

    I very much agree with this! Some solo date time is a great way to recharge!

    Jordanne || Thelifeofaglasgowgirl.co.uk

  26. November 11, 2016 / 9:00 am

    I completely agree with this, and love taking solo dates, I’m planning my next one as we speak! x

  27. November 11, 2016 / 12:04 pm

    This is so true and such a good idea. I’m very busy working and I spend most of my day every day with my husband, but we give each other space to do our own things. And sometimes on a sunday he will stay at home shaving and watching sports, whilst I’ll be out and about doing my girly things or just having a long lazy makeup session 😉

  28. Hannah Heartss ❄️⛄️
    November 11, 2016 / 3:42 pm

    This is such a good idea and I need to do this more x

  29. November 11, 2016 / 5:07 pm

    I am a great believer in solo dates and do them every so often but not done one for a while dude to being busy for work and uni

  30. November 11, 2016 / 6:19 pm

    Its been a long time since I’ve done a solo date, I used to love having that time to myself and just enjoying my own company.

  31. November 11, 2016 / 10:30 pm

    I love a little me time. I think it’s really important and very much integral to my personal wellbeing. Great post <3

  32. Esther Mukoro
    November 12, 2016 / 10:51 am

    I haven’t had a solo date in ages. I should factor that into one of my “me time”. Going out on my own terms without factoring anyone’s likes and dislikes sounds very liberating.

  33. Tanya Brannan
    November 12, 2016 / 4:56 pm

    I love spending time in my own company. I have no issues with dining out, or going to the theatre/cinema on my own. I just wish I could do it more often!!!

  34. Annie Brooks
    November 14, 2016 / 9:08 pm

    Genius! I totally need this. I am actually going to get my diary and pop in somr ‘me’ dates.

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