I’ve been with Luke for just over 18 month’s now and we’ve always spent quite a lot of time together with him staying at my flat numerous times each week but two months ago we officially started living together. It’s something we’ve wanted for a while but there were some logistical things which we wanted to sort out beforehand and now I officially live with a boy.
I’d definitely say that it’s been an easier transition because he did half live in my flat before officially moving in, and he had already brought a bunch of things over like his PlayStation and his 3D Printer just because he was wanting to use them more when he was at mine but it’s still a change.
Despite the fact that I feel like I always need to clean and tidy having another person in the house I wouldn’t change it for the world because I am so happy that we’re living together. Although there are some things I’ve learnt which I thought I’d share with you.
Spending time apart is fine
I think a lot of people think that moving in together means you have to spend every minute you’re both at home together but this couldn’t be further from the truth. Yes we do eat dinner together and like to watch the odd movie together every now and then but we both have our own interests and want to do them. I like to watch Ru Paul’s drag race which Luke hates and obviously I need time to take blog images, and in the same vein some nights all he wants to do is whack on his VR headset and take a trip into space. It’s totally normal and natural to still spend time apart, it’s all about knowing the other person is there so you can have a cuddle when you need one and fall asleep together.
I don’t like sleeping alone
When we first got together it took a little bit of getting used to sharing a bed with someone as other than the odd night I’d always had a double bed to myself. Now we have a king size bed which suits us that bit better and I really don’t like sleeping alone. It’s just something that I’ve got used to and when I go away or on the odd night when me and Luke aren’t sleeping at the same it feels really strange.
It’s great having someone there to help
When ever I needed something doing to my flat or my car I’d either struggle on my own or call my dad and it would generally get done a week or so later but ever since Luke moved in I always have someone to help. Be it ordering the right parts to put a picture up, or moving the shelves on my bookcase he’s there to sort it for me and I’m finding that changes in my flat are happening much quicker, although it does help that he’s super handy at DIY.
There’s always someone there to look after me
One of the great things about living with a partner is knowing that regardless of how rubbish you might be feeling or how bad your day may have been there’s someone there who can care for you. Over the years my mum has been in hospital quite a few times for operations and due to medical negligence and I always saw my dad there looking out for her and caring for her. On the days when I’ve felt a bit crappy and Luke’s been there he’s done great making me feel all cared for so it’s nice knowing that I have that.
Food doesn’t cost that much more
Of course when there’s two of you living together general costs go up but food is something I’ve noticed hasn’t changed all that much. I think part of that is because with us both being there I’m making far more dinners from scratch as opposed to using ready meals or getting takeaways like I was when I was on my own. Once you have the staples in the cupboard I don’t find it costs much more buying things for two than it did for one, especially as we’re taking lunches to work and not always buying out.
I seem to always be doing washing
I used to think that I had a lot of dirty washing but I swear living with a boy makes this seem so much more. When I was totally on my own I’d do one batch of washing a week but now I feel like I am doing about three batches a week with underwear being the thing I seem to wash the most, sometimes I feel like he’s wearing two pairs of everything a day and that’s why it’s so high.
If I want something done I need to be very clear
I can’t make hints or notes about doing things I just need to be straight out and tell Luke if I need him to do something like take the bins out or empty the dishwasher. 99% of the time he’ll do what I’ve asked but they won’t generally think to do these things themselves so you need to be clear.
Any amount of negatives are far outweighed by the positives
At the end of the day even though I feel like I’m always needing to clean and sometimes it can be like chasing a toddler around as they leave a trail of destruction behind them I wouldn’t change a single thing about living together.
Do you live with a partner? If so what things have you learnt since moving in together?