I Owe My Happiness To Online Dating
It’s been a while since I did a slightly more personal post and I thought I’d talk a bit about online dating as it’s a subject I’ve written about before. Up until last October, I was active on dating websites on and off for a number of years. I tried Plenty of Fish and Ok Cupid, I swiped on Tinder, I tried to work out Bumble and I even paid for a spell on Match.com
People always say if you’re truly looking for someone online dating can become a second job and however much I’d love to say it’s easy it isn’t and it can be time-consuming. I do know some people who developed great relationships with the first person they met from a dating site, but for most of us it isn’t that easy. For many of us, mustering up the confidence to go through the process of online dating is a lot, from signing up to the sites in the first place to the actual first date with someone you’ve only been communicating with through a screen before. Fortunately, when it comes to in-person dates, we can make use of things like True Pheromones to make sure that we are giving off the right first impression, no matter how nervous we may appear on the outside, which is a relief. When it comes to the initial online part, I always found using my laptop was so much nicer when looking on dating sites than using my mobile – especially when someone had a long profile – but being hunched up over my laptop wasn’t always a good thing. I do wish I had gotten a blue light screen protector for it to stop my eyes from straining but hindsight.
Over the course of a number of years in my mid-twenties, I went on a decent number of dates and while I don’t really have any horrific first date stories to impart on you, my issue was always post-date when the guy would more often than not seemingly fall off the face of the earth. When this happens to any of us it can be heartbreaking as you wonder what you did wrong and whether you were so bad company that someone would rather not message you at all than send a polite “It was lovely to meet you” message.
Time and time again I’d have a date and then ask myself whether it was worth it but then last October I stumbled across a profile on OK Cupid of someone I couldn’t not message. Yes, I was the type of girl who would happily message a guy first and it’s something I can’t recommend enough. Think how happy you get when you get a message from a nice looking normal guy, wouldn’t you like someone else to feel like that?! Shortly after the initial message and conversation we moved to WhatsApp, arranged our first date and now 14 month’s later we are about to celebrate our second Christmas a couple.
Up until I met my boyfriend I’d had relationships and boyfriends but never quite experienced the feeling you get when you know you’re with ‘the one’ and I feel so incredibly lucky to have that now. In this modern era it’s increasingly common for that special person to be just a click away and while it might seem like you’re hitting your head against a brick wall, in the end, you could be one of the lucky ones and isn’t that worth trying for?
As much as anything I want you all to know that online dating is worth it. Yes you might meet and end up dating a few bad eggs, or have a bunch of disastrous dates but in the end, you might meet someone you’d have never met any other way, and that person might just change your life.
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Wow this is such a sweet post, thank you for sharing hun. I personally am tired of the online dating scene and have given up on dating all together. I would rather focus on myself and when the time is right for someone to come along it’ll all work out. I’m really happy that you found someone after a long time searching though it makes all the bad dates worthwhile in the end lol x
Online dating has got more and more popular throughout the next few years. I still think there is a bit of stigma surrounding using it but it is getting better as it becomes more common. I’m glad you have found happiness and it has worked for you. x
I’ve never done online dating as I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 17, I’m 26 now! But my mum used to use them a lot when she was dating & I really liked the idea of them.
I love that you found someone so special, that’s such a lovely story! I know quite a few people that have met their life partners through online dating, it might have taken a while, but they found them in the end! Now I want decent chocolate too! 😀 x
I’ve been with my husband since school so haven’t used online dating sites but I have friends who have now married dates they met on them.
I’m glad you found a lovely boyfriend 🙂 The only dating app I tried was Tinder and I actually managed to find a nice non-creepy guy on there!!
I am so happy you’ve found a great boyfriend! If I was involved in the online dating world I would have found this post so motivational and it would have kept me swiping or clicking!
That’s so great that online dating has worked for you! I was lucky enough to find my one before taking to online dating.
So glad that online dating worked out for you in the end! It’s a whole different world we live in now than the one of our parents who married their childhood sweethearts.
Aw that is lovely that it has worked out for your. I love the look of the yummy heart chocolate lolly too 🙂 x
This is such an adorable story, especially to hear around Christmas time! It just goes to show that you can’t give up as far as love is concerned!
Aw its nice it worked out well for you! I found my partner online too and we have been together for over 7 years now
This is such a lovely post. You hear all about the bad stories when it comes to online dating but you hear so little about the success stories. So glad you have found happiness.
So glad you found the man of your dreams. We met on an online site six years ago so it definitely is possible to find someone that way.
I feel like there are so many misconceptions about online dating, but one of my best friends found her partner online too – it is possible to meet someone you really click with!
What a lovely story! Online dating is so mainstream now and that’s because there are so many stories like yours. My sister met her now husband online. 🙂
It’s lovely that you’ve managed to find happiness online. I think it’s a great tool and can be very successful like any other relationship. Congratulations on your anniversary x
I met my boyfriend on Tinder, so I can totally relate to this! I’m glad you’ve found your Prince Charming 🙂
When people hear online dating there are a lot of things both negative and positive they could say about it. Congratulations on your Anniversary and I’m glad that you found the one.
I think online dating is great and I encourage all my single friends to try it – and some of them have met the perfect partner! I say give it a go!
I tried so many online dating websites and I found them a waste of space. I met my wife believe it or not through Facebook. Not the conventional way, but we love each other so that’s what counts. Some people find love and meaningful long term relationships through online dating. I’ll admit its not for everyone. As long as you are happy with the person who are you, again that is what is important to you.
John M
I’m so pleased for you that you’ve found “the one” and are happy. I’ve dabbled in online dating but just find it quite exhausting and too time consuming. Maybe I should give it another go and try a bit harder with it.
We’ve heard that online dating can be time-consuming but its well worth investing in your happiness. My mummy has experience the online dating scene as she met my daddy and been married for over 11 years, before the online dating boom x
What a lovely story, glad you found your happiness!
Sam
I absolutly love this <3
I think online dating is amazing – I actually met my OH on twitter (imagine) we've been together for 8 years now and still going very strong.
Thanks for sharing this hun, online dating is perfect for the lifestyle we live now. I tell people don't knock it until you've tired it LOL
Charlotte x
It makes my heart glad that you met someone who is the ‘one’ and that you are still together. I have been single far longer than I like to admit but I totally know what you mean about how horrible the feeling of rejection is. I took a break from May to November for dating because I was feeling quite dejected and needed to have space to myself. So from now until November I have had quite a few dates, I did meet someone who I really liked and who apparently liked me back and then, after a while he stood me up a few dates later which was quite upsetting. Unlike before though, I got upset and moved on. I have three dates this week so still searching but you never know! I hope I can find the one!