Ways That Online Dating Can Change Your Life
Most longer time readers will probably know my story with online dating. But if you don’t I’ll revisit it a bit. I had a bit of a love hate relationship with online dating from 2014-2016. I’d spend time interacting with people and sending messages. I’m not the kind of girl who would always let the guy make the first move. If I liked the look of someone and they seemed interested I had no issue with sending the first message. And then I’d either get ignored or the conversation would fizzle out after a few back and forths.
Of the few dates I went on over the years they pretty much all ended the same way. I’d get ghosted. I’d say in 75% of the cases this would happen and I’d never hear from the guy again. Then I’d wallow in self-pity for a bit, before giving it another go 4-5 months later. But then in October 2016 I sent a message to someone who seemed really interesting. A few week’s later we went on our first date and now 2 and half years later we’re planning to buy a house together.
My story of how I met Luke was pretty simple. We clicked on our first date, got together straight afterwards and never looked back. The first 6 months or so may have seemed pretty intense where we spent 3/4 nights a week together from the get go. We met each others parents after about 6-8 weeks. And I gave him a key to my flat after about 5 months. But when you know, you know.
It seems like I’m not the online one as research by EHarmony showed that by 2031 38% of relationships will start through online dating websites. And a further 12% will begin relationships after meeting on other online websites. And I’m sure social media is where most of these will come from.
Casual dating
I know some people just go online for sex dating where they’re just looking for a physical partner which is absolutely fine. I’m sure we can all agree that an extended dry spell is not fun for anyone. There is no shame in it, and for a lot of people this is the alternative when they’re just not ready to invest time into dating. Or just aren’t looking for anything serious. People may use sites like nostringsdating net to find someone of the same mindset.
For me casual dating just wasn’t what I was looking for. I’m an all or nothing kind of person and I either want to invest all I can, or it’s a no. As a millennial whose super busy I didn’t have the time to casually date. So when I went on dates it was with people who there was a proper spark with. Or the potential for something more.
Finding friends
Online dating doesn’t have to be restricted to romantic relationships. Some sites have friendship versions where you can find like-minded people (usually of the same sex) for platonic relationships. I joined a few as I realised that alth0ugh I had a great close knit group of friends I didn’t really have anyone super close. And I wanted to meet some people who had genuinely similar interests.
For some people this is all they’re looking for, companionship and people to spend time with. Especially if you’ve moved or relocated to an area where you don’t really know anyone. I know people who go on dating app’s when they travel solo just to find people to go for drinks with. And this seems to be a common thing to do.
Have you ever tried online dating?
Pin It
15 responses to “Ways That Online Dating Can Change Your Life”
Leave a Reply
All About Me
Rhian Westbury
Travels and Destinations
Nothing currently planned
Great Post! I kind of met my husband online and I didnĀ“t think that would be possible but here I am!
Jasmin
I am so lucky I met my husband at work, although that does come with its own problems as everyone has an opinion
Online dating is so normal these days. There are so many sites out there, it’s important to pick the right one for you.
I missed out on the whole online dating generation as I met my boyfriend just before Tinder took off! So lovely that you met your partner online!
I honestly don’t know how I’d ever get a date if it wasn’t for online dating, that’s where all my dates come from nowadays!
I know what you mean, where else would you actually meet someone when you’re out of education?! x
I met my partner online and I was really reluctant to try it to begin with but It worked out so well, we’re perfect for each other. xxx
I’m so happy that you met your partner online, it can be much easier to meet someone perfect for you online as your paths may naturally have never passed in real life x
I use to online date but it didnāt work out for me, met my partner whilst he was shopping for his usual red bull and cigarettes! But I might consider looking for more friends online as I only know my housemate and my sister in London.
Iāll admit Iāve never tried online dating as I met my husbands pretty young (15) and weāve been together ever since. I guess online dating can be a lovely way to make new connections especially as you said for friendship and casual dating.
I met my husband at work however we would chat online before we actually got together.
Online dating is a great way to meet all kinds of people, you just have to be careful. I’ve heard of many great love stories and some horror stories.
Oh 100%, you need to careful with anything like this. Like always meet in a public place etc x
Great post, i think it can be vetry stresfull and pressue in online dating, but on the flip you can make great friends with it also. luckily i found ym wife before it.
I have to admit I am so glad I don’t have to do this, it was never a thing when I met my mister, but we did meet online. But you are right, when you know, you know x